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PROPOSED CHURCH POLICIES (or GUIDELINES) WITH BIBLICAL AND OTHER BASES Draft 12/06 Preface This from www.agapepress.org : Prof/Dr. Ron Sider wrote "The Scandal of the Evangelical Conscience. … We do not, Sider says across very readable pages, live what we preach. But he goes beyond the mere use of the word hypocritical. He calls such behavior scandalous; indeed, treasonous. And, he boldly declares, this has become normal for us: “The difference between the Church and the world is precious little, and sometimes we even act worse (like getting more divorces, as Barna has suggested of ‘born-agains’). As much as the world does, we seek pleasure, wealth, self-aggrandizement and sexual thrills outside of the confines of marriage. And, incredibly, where white evangelicals are the most concentrated, we are most racist. We are poor givers, have rejected the foundation of a biblical worldview, and have committed blatant, on-going disobedience to known scriptural imperatives.” Our Proposals are written as concise, actionable but discussable proposals to help the church move to a place where Christians and non-Christians can assemble in a loving atmosphere to fellowship, pray, and worship in a way that is honoring to God and His Word and pleasing to man. Then parishioners can be better equipped to serve the world. We will give only BRIEF BASES now, but may add further explanations and illustrations later. We are NOT encouraging legalism or laws, but Guides to personal and Church improvement, for many congregations are so diverse in knowledge and understanding the Bible that offenses are commonplace. These are what we feel God wants-- for “all/panta things should be done “decently/becomingly/fittingly and in order” (1Cor14:40) and of course, biblically, rather than bound by “human traditions” (Col 2:8).. These Proposals are written for Spirit-refilling persons, otherwise these can be taken the wrong way (1 Cor 2:1-14). To some it might seem these proposals are not needed or to be in writing but we unfortunately have regularly seen all of the below omitted, overlooked, or disregarded (even blatantly)—which we believe weakens the witness and work of His ministry and His Church. These are written to help reduce the abuse some feel from or within the church. Our prayer is that you do not get discouraged with your/His church, but try to help the church to see His plan for them. Note: We usually write church in the lower case when referring to a building or for regular attendees of Christian services; but use capitalized Church for those born again (John 3:3, 3:7; 1 Peter 1:23) into His forever family. There is no perfect Church here below (and certainly not if we were members-- but we try hard). It is realized that some of these Policies may take time and effort to appropriately word and adopt for a particular Church. We can tell a non-gossiping story about each of these Guidelines, and pray for insight and clarity for all. In the meantime, if “Christ is preached,…I will continue to rejoice” (Phillipians 1:18). BASES Many churches will say they are biblical, but only a segment re-inspect and pursue such worship patterns. While there are differences in interpretations even among mature born-again Believers, the Bible is consistent and coherent. Most realize we proceed from the OT (Old Covenant) to the NT. We do include some Hermeneutics (interpretation principles) elsewhere and are aware of Churches that emphasize some Bible verses (especially NT) while not following others; e.g., wanting you to tithe faithfully (Mal 3:10; Mt.23:23) but inviting by default even unrepentant members (and sometimes blantant sinners) to partake of the Lord’s supper (1Cor11:27-30). BASES God takes no vacation from protecting us; we should seriously study He is and how He operates. There are many seeming discrepancies in the Bible which can be resolved if studied in a systematic manner. Hermeneutics can help us understand. These are some principles: 1). The Bible while helpful to all who read it, understanding it requires that one asks the Holy Spirit’s guidance while studying it carefully and applying it. 2). The Bible is clear on the basics required to live with God in Peace forever. 3). There are two kinds of wisdom (James 3:13-17): wisdom for Heaven (Jesus/God) and from earth (Solomon used both) 4). In that the Bible is progressive through history (most agree that there are at least 2 (some find more) Dispensations (OT & NT; Eph1:10; Col 1:25; Heb 1:1); the books written last are the more determinative for our life 5 ). When an event is mentioned twice e.g., “Babylon is fallen, is fallen” (Rev 14:3), the event will be repeated. 6). When a later portion seems unclear, we should revert back to the quoted words of God (Jesus or the Spirit) as being the last word on that portion. 7) Consult Commentaries and other study materials, especially on unclear portions. 8) Only God can modify His Word, as Jesus did in a few parts of the NT; the Holy Spirit “will not speak on His own” (John 16:13). So God, though He speaks through the Holy Spirit often in prayer to persons, He will not e.g., tell a NT+ parishioner to kill his own son . 9). While some Bible writers/recorders wrote to or about certain areas, e.g. Obadiah wrote of Edom and Paul wrote to Galatians, the lessons in the books are needed and beneficial to us --sometimes only to understand God and the circumstances better –which is wonderful. 10). One should ask God –how am I to use this in my life? ; however, an immediate application does not pertain to all passages. 11). While the Bible can be clear in its central message even to uneducated, it is not mastered in all of it by anyone (Jesus purposely spoke in ambiguous parables, e.g.), and one who thinks he has mastered the Bible, is not humble enough to do so. 12). If we do not WANT to follow ALL of the teachings of the Bible, we will have diminished understanding and value from it. 13 ). Verbal or word culture of the Bible should guide and pattern interactions between Christians today. E.g., when approaching another, we should normally say “Peace to you (or to your home)” (1Sam25:6; Lu10:5; John 20:19,21). 14). Aspects of the Bible culture should be adopted gladly if it would not limit greatly limit our ministry for Him. E.g. wear inexpensive clothes (1Pet3:3) unless that actually keeps us from being “all things to all men that I might by all means save some” (1Cor9:22). Note: Jesus might take a bus or even a car for some long trips if He had chosen to come in the 20th century. But it seems that most of us too should walk (or bike) on short trips when practical. Other Hermeneutics are valuable. Further, the school/group/class may and perhaps should be conducted informally but with emphasis on becoming more like Christ in our thoughts and behavior. I.e., while casual conversation may precede class and brief light moments may be included in the class, the leader should encourage developing the biblical considerations and applications to our lives. In almost all cases the leader or his designee should briefly introduce an additional factor, hilites, and/or area of concern. He or she should limit and set some guidelines so that attendees will not be uncomfortable by personal remarks of any. E.g., each should be free to express even incorrect though heartfelt thoughts without another showing disgust or directly saying, “that is wrong.” Rather, the leader could say—are there other opinions? And/or remind the group that “we do not want to make snap judgments or quick fixes for others.” Or another could say “I think…; or the Bible says….” The facilitator should encourage participants to bring up and read from the Bible verse(s) to support their opinion. The leader should ask for volunteers to pray or read or unless it is very clear to the leader or facilitator that the person(s) to be called on is presently willing and able. Reading a couple of verses going around the table is usually inefficient. 1) Persons often spend their attention trying to find the section they are to read and checking if they know all the words. 2) Many feel tense praying or reading in front of others or out loud. 3) It is usually much better to ask them to read the lesson before class, but encourage then give them 1-3 minutes [segments] during class to scan, read, or meditate on sections. Most Americans can comprehend about double per minute if they read it silently compared to hearing it; speaking is slower than reading. In many ways, the Sunday class is held to higher standards of efficiency, respect, and certainly love than is a business meeting. We are encouraging each other in life struggles. As such the time-tested 8-12 person grouping for discussions is much better 1) Persons can know each other better. 2) Bonding for support is enhanced. Each has more time to input. (Just 8 persons could produce 56 interactions.) 3) They are more willing to share intimate thoughts. 4) Confidentiality and accountability are more likely. Optimal biblical group fellowship pattern? · This church will have an additional “service” on Sunday in the afternoon or evening (or Saturday if that is her main worship day). This service will also have a worship (singing, testimonies, sermon, special needs like healing, praying,….) times but not be like a “Contemporary v. Traditional” or similar. This added service is for teaching/instruction in specific areas of family life, which is a key to church life, and national life. A light lunch should often accompany the service. BASES: The Lord’s Day should be used to enhance the special congregation/family relationship with God and others. It would be useful to have a light healthy lunch (sandwiches perhaps) at about noon, followed by singing and general prayer, then various classes for the adults and children. On select days, “they devoted themselves to the apostle’s teaching and fellowship/koinonia, in the breaking of bread and prayers” (Acts 2:42). These classes would include some specific prayers for the students, families, and friends. This would utilize the building better (continuing heat, AC), save much travel or returning home and back, -- and dig out the info from the Bible to please the Lord and meet their needs. “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge, because you have rejected knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). · The Elders guided by the Sr Pastor should agree on the biblical worship emphases that please God for that site. God IS the audience. They should publish a sheet with the Bible texts and then further preach/discuss why they emphasize certain factors in His Church and worship services. Each of the following should occur at least monthly (some each service). BASES The congregation should stand when the main passage of the Bible is read (not just quoting a verse portion). Even Jesus made the Word the foundation and honored the Word by standing when it is read (Lu 4: 14ff; also Neh 8:5) --and we should be taught to do what the Word mandates: bowing and kneeling (Neh 8:6; Ps 95; Eph 3:14; Phlp 2:10), clapping for the Lord and shouting (Ps 47:1), singing “Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs” -3 types (Col 3:17; Eph 5:19), using a variety of instruments and dancing (Ps 150:2-6; Mt 11:17), recommending "oil...prayer...confess" first for healing (Jms 5:14-16; 2 Chron 16:12-13), speaking “Peace…” as a standard greeting (1 Sam 25:6; Lu 10:5; John 20:19,21), raising our hands in worship and prays (Neh 8:6; Ps 63:3,4; Ps 134:2; 1Tim 2:8), saying Amens (Neh 8; 1Cor 14; Rev 7:12); serving careful communion reading appropriate Scripture about what it is and who it is for (1Cor 11:20, 27-30); and at times washing “one another’s feet” (John 13:14), etc. While the heart is crucial, many feel that they are in a dying church if they do not hear Amens or see biblical worship. There are many other texts. Present Bible knowledge and practice seems woefully lacking in many churches. [Please forgive us and motivate us, Lord.] The goal is not to please the people with Contemporary or Traditional worship, but to be biblical. If truly biblical, His people will sooner (hopefully) or later be attracted to Him and His Church, and not be misled in the process. BASES Paul states “I want men everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer, without anger or disputing” (1Tim2:8). Aaron and Hur helped Moses (Exo. 17:11). There is power in following His plan for prayer. (A lifted hand and arm also keeps our prayers less repetitious!) Raising the hand is a great example of what congregants should do when they talk with others and a need or praise is mentioned. Others around them then also have some clue that God is being honored by invoking His presence and power. Neh 8:6; also “Lift up your hands in the sanctuary [House of Prayer]…” (Ps 134:2). BASES Such immediately engages congregants in prayers to His throne. “Pray without ceasing." (I Thes 5:17). Our review and thoughts become prayers. No duplication, no misquoting in re-mentioning the incident in a“formal” prayer; no one is left out, and no forgetting.. People will tend not to ramble, for we are praying to God. "My House shall be called a House of Prayer (Isa 56: 7) All things with prayer and supplication with thanksgiving (Phil 4:6) Prayers are needed mainly when the need is there, not next day when the “healing” has? already come; we should expect God to answer quickly. “…while they are still speaking, I will hear/answer” (Isa 65:24). Otherwise we encourage delay when prayer is needed, and we operate more of a gossip line than a prayer time or line. We should pray foremost that God would heal, relieve pain, and guide the restoration and secondarily perhaps give the MDs wisdom; that way God gets full opportunity to show and get credit for His healing (without which we all would die). · Before key occurrences and requests like the election of elders and deacons (overseers), the congregations should be asked to fast and pray. BASES Neh 1:4; Dan 9:4; Luke 5:33-35. “So after they fasted and prayed, they placed their hands on them and sent them off” (Acts 13:1-3). Acts 14:23; God wants us to deny ourselves and seek His face. We all must "Study to ...be approved of God, rightly dividing the Word...." (2Tim 2:15). We do not find biblical "fasting" as giving up other than food and/or water ( not giving up TV,…, though such might be useful). · The Church should have a Prayer, Healing and Deliverance Ministry --and publish the guides that it follows. BASES God is displeased when we do not go to Him, the Healer (Ex 15:26; Ps 103:3) first for healing. Although Asa was a righteous king, Asa was not healed (1 Kings 23,24). “Asa …was afflicted with a disease in his feet. Though his disease was severe, even in his illness he did not seek help from the Lord but only from the physicians. Then in the 41st year of his reign Asa died…” (2 Chron 16:12,13). After redeeming souls, the greatest ministry of Jesus and the Church is to develop healthy disciples. Jesus and His disciples healed and cast out demons. But the Lord also “sent 72 others [unrecorded names] out 2 by 2 …to say ‘Peace to this house’ … Heal the sick who are there and tell them the Kingdom of God is near you. …The 72 returned and said ‘Lord, even the demons submit to us in Your Name.’ ...I have given you authority to …overcome all the power of the enemy…. However, …rejoice that your names are written in Heaven” (Luke 10:1-20). We in the USA are bombarded with so many more evil messages and spirits today thru TV, radio, billboards, etc. We even invite the ghostly, scary, violent characters into our lives –and not only at Halloween. While most health scientists now believe that about 3/4ths of our illnesses and even accidents are caused psychosomatic distress and disorders, the medical profession has acknowledged such high rates only in the last decades. The Bible relates that Satan and demons are a root cause of our obsession, oppression, and possession. “…[T]ake your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is against …the powers of this dark world, against the forces of evil. [Satan and his demons], Therefore put on the full armor of God…” (Eph 6:11-13). Most (but surely not all) are sick because we do not often follow biblical principles of living. We do not consider the 10 Commandments and many of the others; we are often frustrated and angry (Ps 37:1, 7,8; Eph 4: 31; Col 3:8). We should not be “anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present y/our requests to God. …” (Phlp 4: 6). We need repent and stop “sinning …[‘lack of love, factious spirit, greed, and contempt’ included according to FF Bruce, Bible Commentary, p1373 and before taking the Lord’s Supper] “a man ought to examine himself …for anyone who eats and drinks without recognizing the body of the Lord eats and drinks judgment on himself. That is why many among you are weak and sick, and a number of you have fallen asleep [died] . … We are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world.“ (1 Cor 11: 27-32). Pastors should remind congregants of the necessary repentances or the church becomes a facilitator of such sickness if not of those sins. On the bases of seminars, personal healings, and study, we propose the following: Prayer Servants (PS) in the church should be available to any who wish to pray with them for healing, etc. or be prayed for. The PS might even ask something like “Have you considered the James 5 (:13-16) process which is the most comprehensive for Church-assisted healing?” If the hurting then ask for such, the PS Elders should encourage the hurting to seek their relation to Jesus more than their physical healing (Mt 16:28), to accept that God’s timing for healing (John 9:3-7; 2Tim 4:20), and that obtaining and maintaining healing usually requires us to improve our lifestyle and we often need further encouragement including Recovery groups -- and prayer. . For the full James’ process benefit, all the biblical elements should be followed carefully including a response (Jms 5:16) at minimum similar to “I have been forgiven for all my sins including [as examples] gluttony, greed, xxxxx, xxxxxx, .…” Elders may often pray similar to –Dear Lord, we humbly stand in Your power and resist the devil (James 4:7); please take away all demonic oppression from this person and this church. See Jude 9. With additional training, other elder tactics could be used. The above does not obviate using God’s scientific medical services even concurrently when timing is crucial. BASES We should not assume that what we are doing is pleasing to God and others. “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed“ (Prov 15:22); “Pleasantness of one’s friend springs from his earnest counsel” (Prov 27:9). We need realize though that 1) many do not wish to give counsel for they do not wish to take it or 2) some do not want to be held “responsible” for guiding another. The later is a related to a “counselor” often feeling frustrated when someone does not take his counsel. And 3) Counseling is difficult and requires sincere execution. “…you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself… Carry each others burden …to fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal 6:1,2). Counsel is especially important again in these days when so many are again “doing what is right in their own eyes [or] did what he saw fit” as was repeatedly so in the times of early Israel (Judges 17:6;…21:25). Often we are blinded to what we do and need others (in addition to those closest to us) to give us their thoughts about us. Giving sincere compliments is often a great way of giving counsel; people then hear what you consider outstanding. And most people want to hear what others are surmising, especially if it is positive and spoken gently and truthfully. Even Jesus said “Who do men say that I am?” (though He knew). We should agree as much as we can about what has been told us for there is often truth, if not the whole truth, in what they say. Even if we feel they are wrong, we should Thank them for telling us instead of others and say that we will certainly reflect on a modification whether or not it was suggested . We should not be defensive or it will limit further input. We may say if helpful, “It may seem that way [or even] It may SEEM that way [and/or] Could you rephrase that? [or] Would you rephrase that?” After they have told us about specific incidents and how they felt, we may and often should, mention the context while agreeing that our behavior was questionable. If they overstate their reporting or make character rather than incident judgments such as –You are selfish or very controlling or proud or…, then we may at least comment that “No one of us can really know all the factors [or] read another’s heart .” One of the major reasons that counsel is so seldom welcomed or given, is that we can get too emotionally involved and pronounce judgment on anothers character— often without understanding the context or the motives or their usual demeanor. Then we feel badly about it. Nevertheless, we are called to counsel “and admonish one another with all wisdom…” (Col 3:16) and God will improve us through it. BASES Mt 18:15ff ; Eph 6:1,2 When there is is apparent friction or a fault, we should go to the other privately. We should ask the other-- for counsel to help us understand what is happening? And if I see things incorrectly, please guide me? What can I say or do that would help our relations? LOG ROLLING is our term for the preamble to seeking or offering counsel later. Jesus said “How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when …there is a plank in your own eye?” So it is often best to say similar to “I value your thoughts on how I might represent Christ better.” Then repeat as proposed above-- “If you find incidents in my life that you think are contrary to biblical principles or polite behavior, I invite you to bring those to me personally so that I might reflect and ask forgiveness and modify as needful.” Then we pause for them to react. Then we handle whatever they say. When those matters are reasonably satisfied, then we might ask if we have any momentous ideas to offer --“Would you like [or be open] to hear some thoughts to consider? ALL of us need counsel. Even married couples need a person or few to give independent reflection about their lives. One can use phone or use email in certain cases, realizing that others may read the email. So we need be general and open, E.g., we might say—Dear Jim, Peace. I thought I heard you say “………….” yesterday, and that was a little troubling. If you wish to fill me in on the context, or if you have counsel for me, just reply and we can discuss at our mutual opportunity. Love in Christ, John Doe, ph xxx xxxx. NOTE: We plan to soon post ideas on Forgiving and Receiving Forgiveness. BASES It is very easy to make mistakes, even while reading. We tend even to emphasize through our own biases and culture. Would we not have a slightly different message for bush persons in the Congo? “My ways are higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts” (Isa 55:9). BASES See (1Cor 14:29-33). It is not one man admonishing all, but a few encouraging the church to do right. This in part is so that nothing but the Scripture and no one but the Spirit is considered the final Authority or expert. While the lead Pastor is the Undersheperd of the flock, having 2 or 3 participate shows unity of teaching and harmony. (The 3 is less than the 13 that stood on the platform with Ezra when he “opened the Book” Neh 8:4,5). And if one misspeaks, the next speaker can clarify with a specific verse (without even calling attention to the specific error of the other; the Word/Bible always trumps our views). Thus it minimizes the need for a correction or apology the following service. Further, when a congregant has a stroke/attack, the other(s) can often notice it and inquire or point out the person-- and call for prayer, a medical person, and 911 (usually in that order). Having others participate is training and also helps others feel more a part of the worship. And when the others up front also take notes, it is a splendid example for congregants. * A sermon outline with the principal points should be given out about the morning worship/teaching. It should contain the title, pastor, date (for further reference/discussion), and the texts with citations. It should contain space to fill in a few blanks, but also room to make further notations under the points but also an area where they can fill in “How the Spirit is directing me? _______________________________________________” BASES: This will help the pastor to organize his thoughts, make it more efficient for concentration and note taking, and be filed for further reference. When a professional (such as a pastor) spends significant time bringing guidance, even an employer would want some evidence that the attendee was getting good ideas from the seminar/teaching. BASES When we misrepresent Christ, we mislead and eventually lose disciples. Or, the congregant thinks the leaders are getting away with it and the congregants too will be able to do wrong without repercussions and/or get confused as to what is right.. And we alienate God. When we have a policy of correcting ourselves, we tend to reduce our mistakes and we lessen the likelihood that parishioners will committee to bring the fault to the Overseers/Elders who are responsible (1Tim3:1-5; Titus 1:5-9). BASES Further explanation then might distract unless there is time to pray with the pastor. Usually a brief comment should be enough to an amiable preacher and cause rethinking (anyone can make a mistake in speaking and a wise person will appreciate insights) and perhaps he will change a line in the later service. The later service is the one to be taped --to show evidence that the preacher did modify. Elders are responsible and should be equipped and inclined to promote truth (1Tim3:2-7). Pulpit statements are sometimes wrong and do great damage to the congregation and community. BASES The church is for peace for all who enter; not a continuation of the world. Jesus cleansed the temple at the beginning AND end of His earthly ministry. The House of Prayer (Is 56:7; Mt 21:13) is important to God. . Fashion shows in the foyer especially before/between services is inappropriate for added reasons.(1 Tim 2:9, ....). Activities like Nutrition, even Aerobics are connected to our/His temples, and should be permissible on weekdays. BASES His Church should be a forum for peaceful discourse and discussion. "And everthing should be done in a fitting and orderly way" (1Cor 14:40). · The Bible, its exegeses, with prayerful applications, should be at least half of the non-music portion in regular Worship services. Pastors should regularly discuss why the Bible is reliable throughout and quote from great Commentaries by Church Fathers. BASES Ezra (Neh 8: 1-12) and Josiah (2Ki 23:2-4) illustrated that the Scripture is to be predominant. Jesus quoted the OT often, and even as authoritative while He refined it. Mt 5:44. Commentaries often reveal how the Scripture has been interpreted from the original writers forward so that we do not promolgate novel ideas. BASES Some preachers shut the Bible and put it behind them before preaching. They start with a cute story --as if the Bible isn’t interesting enough. Such often demeans His Word, portraying the Word as not relevant enough for a starter. (Jesus, Nathan, Solomon used stories and analogies –but the writers recorded few of their own in His NT,) Preacher illustrations should be SUBpoints. They will separate the descriptive from the prescriptive texts. BASES Such is often not done tandemly, so many may take it before being a Christian or without examining themselves, repenting, and planning restitution and thus one "... eats and drinks judgment on himself [and becomes] weak and sick.... and dies" (I Cor 11:27-30). And more importantly, it desecrates the body of our Jesus. BASES These are crucial elements for the practice of our wonderful biblical faith. How we become “children of God” (John 1:12), live our lives through Him, and value brings Him joy. Israel is the land He picked to be the perpetual “apple of His eye” (Zech 2:7-13) which He blessed since Abram was sent there (Gen 11, 12). “Pray for the peace of Jerusalem, …I will seek your prosperity” (Ps 122). The Lord choose Israel for Jesus and His people. Of all places we should want to visit, Israel should head that list. (We can learn some priorities from our Muslim cousins. One of the 5 Pillars of their faith is to visit Mecca once in their lifetime if they are financially and otherwise able to do so.) BASES The NT Churches were grouped/named by cities such as Ephesus (Rev 2,3) or areas such as Galatia. Those names show unity (called for 5 times in John 17 alone) and joint responsibility for His Church in that city or area; then the address and denomination if any or its initials can be added probably in parentheses. Such a name will help all persons to look to them for a faithful representation of the biblical Christ and His work, not just what a church wants to practice. Then all the churches should be held accountable to the other churches in the area and subject to one another’s counsel and admonition. Compare this to a l denominational church in an isolated community where its practice may not be known well by the denomination—or others nearby to which they are also accountable. BASES Both 1Tim3 and Titus1:5-9 list high qualities for major offices. We know prominent, young leaders who admitted to not having read the whole Bible. Further, we have seen churches list almost all of these qualities, but omit the ones they did not adhere to, e.g., “husband of one wife ” (1 Tim 3:2), etc. BASES Both 1Tim2:9 and 1Peter3::3 outline modesty and inexpensive clothes for women; men should have similar standards. We should make it clear, however, that one does not have to be rich to be a Christian, or be attractive. “All of you, clothe yourselves with humility…” (1Pet5:5). And anyone may come to His House. But God deserves our respect, especially of leaders of believers; if we were going to the President’s home, we would dress up. BASES Football, hockey, boxing, wrestling; fashion modeling, bartending, motor racing, etc. are very difficult to justify for a Christian. They promote a god and goddess image. If just half in the books about or by Wilt Chamberlain, Pete Rose, Jose Canseco , etc. are true, most professional sports are highly polluting They are dangerous for spirituality/attitudes and/or the bodies and misleading for most. Although I was Honorable Mention football player on the All Conference Roster in high school, I have repented to God, my parents and others (also now) for playing and the “killer instinct” attitudes I (and most others) nourish and for the damage done. And such sports and attendant activities usually are a misuse of His monies, time, and the Lord’s Day. It is estimated that 1/3rd of USA adults follow NASCAR! I was a member of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and accept that some professional players are Christians and that many players do helpful witnessing, but on balance violent and professional sports are counterproductive. Christians are generally misled. I pray earnestly that many top pro violent-sport Christians will quit and tell why the sport is so bad. When Paul said “…I beat my body,” he is talking about running a race (1Cor9:27). A pastor talking even unfavorably about a movie they saw justifies that one may go as a critic. If a pastor wishes to comment on it, he if possible could say something like—I read this quote from the movie: “________________.” A pastor talking favorably about cookies, pie, cake, or such “refreshments” during a sermon or announcements is justifying empty calories, support an addiction, or at least causes some to be distracted and to want to leave and eat! · Pastors (and usually leaders) should be gentle, courteous, and not demanding even while calling all to high standards. I.e., pastors should refrain from saying “you need to [but rather say we should] do this …,” and should not punctuate with lording imperatives like Listen! or Look! BASES Jesus of the NT is usually gentle and patient but tough, and wants us to be so. The “fruit of the Spirit” contains “patience, kindness, goodness, …gentleness and self-control” (Gal5:22,23) which the pastor should mirror. These are not feminine qualities, but for all Christians. When pastors are demanding or demeaning, men especially “rebel,” for many of them get pushed around in the workplace—and do not think they need more of it on Sunday. The percentage of males in church has dropped from 47% to 39% in half a century. Leaders often misread the cause of this decline, saying the church must promote the macho man, wake up the wild man, get them involved in sports (even car racing, watching or playing football), hunting, and public “pig roasts.” And if the hunting is primarily for the “killer” in men and not the food or protection, it is usually wrong for a Church activity. Announcing to the public that the church is having a “pig roast” is an affront the Jews (and Muslims), who should be first on our concern to win for Christ (Rom 1:16). Men need to be very gentle, yet tough in body and spirit. Those goals will encourage men to fill the pews –and the offices. The church, rather than promote most sports, should educate biblically about the dangers that rough sports increases our evil inclinations. Even college basketball, which decades ago was a gentlemen’s sport, now is so pushy that if done off the court, it would be assault. Gentlemenness pleases God, the women in their lives, and is an example for young boys—who get enough “ruffian” modeling from the world.. When the church gathers Christian men to attend pro sports events, it is a counter force to what He would want –for a number of reasons, even though such might be meant for good. Organizations such as Promise Keepers and Fellowship of Christian Athletes do some wonderful work but should tweak their activities to become more effective for Him. When we are not clear against sports that endanger our bones and morality (if not our lives and spirit) such as boxing and pro hockey , we mislead millions –many whom do not even attend such events! · We should not elect women pastors and elders for they are not to shoulder those responsibilities-- except to teach women and children, when serving under her husband, when there are no men there qualified or who will serve, or when there is a woman who is exceptionally qualified by near unanimous acclaim—and when she (and her husband if married) is willing. Women are desperately needed as Advisors and co-workers to Elders, and Deaconesses for carry through with the needy, … . BASES In the Bible we have many women outstanding women: Deborah, Hulda, Elizabeth, Anna, Mother Mary, Mary with Martha , Priscilla (with Aquila), Lydia, Phillip’s daughters, …., and Deaconess Phoebe-- leaders who appeared approved of God. Recently Corrie Ten Boom, Mother Theresa, Anne Graham Lotz, Beth Moore, Jennifer Rothschild, and a number of others. However, consider 1Cor14:34,35; 1Tim2:11-3:12; Titus 2:1-8 for the biblical norm. Many others verses too, but let’s look at some issues: 1) It is confusing if the men who are to lead their wives are now under the authority of a pastor woman/wife. 2) If an attractive woman preaches, it is difficult for many men to stay “on topic.” 3) Women should ordinarily not be responsible for the immense burden of leading the Church. 4) Women’s voices are generally not as strong, nor easy for older men to hear and thus understand, and 5) Women emphasize different things—which is why they are needed for advice. When women are highly gifted, it is often best for all if they are recorded (teachings too) in a video for dissemination to the Church which men can watch also in small groups; they will usually make a greater impact than as a pastor. . The following was reported 2/27/05 by Matt Crenson through the AP on some male and female brains studies and comments: “…I think it's an outrage that certain questions — that real, important questions — can't be raised in an academic atmosphere [as by President Summer of Harvard], that research that's well-known can't be presented without some sort of hysterical response," says Linda S. Gottfredson, a psychologist at the University of Delaware. In recent years, scientists have found that male and female brains are wired differently from one another, due to the role of testosterone and other male hormones during gestation. Brains growing under the influence of male hormones are slightly larger and have denser concentrations of neurons in some regions. Male brains also contain a greater proportion of gray matter, the part of the brain responsible for computation, while women have relatively more white matter, which specializes in making connections between brain cells. Brain-imaging studies suggest that both sexes exploit these differences to their benefit. UCLA researchers have done brain scans of men and women who scored in the top 1 percent on the math section of the SAT. As they worked on math problems, the men relied heavily on the grey matter in the brain's parietal and cerebral cortices. Women showed greater activity in areas dominated by the well-connected white matter. …” · All Church-sponsored events serving food should have healthy-food alternatives including whole-grain bread, diabetic, some gluten-free food, etc. prominently displayed and labeled near the beginning of the table. BASES. When food is not there for persons who wish to eat right, diabetics, persons who are allergice, or dieters, we are denying them that portion of the "…breaking of bread" fellowship (Acts 2:42). Further, we are not giving a good example of how Christians should provide for each other, and how they should eat for health and enhancing the “temple of the Holy Spirit.” · Unhealthy (or less than the best of food types) should not be announced/advertised as a drawing message, e.g., Pizza party, Ice cream social, Pig Roast, or any unclean OT food as shell fish, etc. Such food may be included in a fuller meal setting if it is labeled or it is clear what it is. When unhealthy food is served, private sponsors and not the church should pay for such and a sign saying their name or at least similar e.g. to “Pizza was donated anonymously.” BASES The average weight, condition, and thinking of church member seems not be much different from USA averages.—2/3rds are overweight. We are slowly incapacitating and killing ourselves, and giving the world a warped pattern of what Christ wants for His people/disciples. Yet we have so many opportunities, resources, and talents-- and therefore responsibility to retain and improve health. The Church should lead. Though we may eat a bit of most foods, while we are trying to win Jews (Rom 1:16) or Muslims to Christ and His Church, we should be sensitive and not advertise a Pig Roast or Shrimp Salad (shell fish retain toxins), etc. The strict following of Moses’ law on these (Lev.11:10) is not mandatory compared with perpetual God’s 10 Commandments from God. Though, “If your brother is stressed by what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. … everything that does not come from faith is sin” (Rom 14:15-23). * Paid staff and others who are prominent in ministry should be on a MD or OD revealed plan to reduce if they are obese. Their income (and ministry) will be reduced by ½ % for each percent they are over the obese weigh. BASES: Most adults recognize that obesity is harmful to their bodies, reduces the energy and performance, shortens the life span, repels many from being attracted to the Gospel, and is an eating addiction that can be corrected with God’s power and plan, The penalties can be modified when a healthful reduction progress is accomplished timely. Even professional team athletes get penalized for overweight; the NFL Bargaining Agreement provides for fines of up to $800/# per week. When the Elders take self-destruction seriously, the parishioners will likely modify. · Salaries, housing, education allowances, travel, pensions, and perqs should be disclosed as items for each of the top paid staff of the church in the Annual Budget Proposal. BASES: Public Corporations and govt bodies disclose top salaries and are being required to disclose more and more, while many churches are disclosing less. Unless we have openness, many will not give all their tithes to the local church when they think some are being overpaid. The church thus limits the “tithes and offerings” program that they should be facilitating. Cf Mal 3:10ff. · All Church Forms and Publications should have a name and be dated along with the issuing department if not church-wide and be reviewed by 3 persons in that church leadership area. BASES: It is so easy to sabotage the church efforts by putting out misleading or less-than-satisfactory pubs. E.g., one could put on a Membership Request and Registration (rather than a Membership Application) form --Does any in your family have Special Needs? rather than – Do any in your family have a disability? Then potential members could insert most anything, even "suspected ADD" etc. This will greatly help. Forms should be warm, e.g., "Welcome. Please print using ink." (Such extends courtesy invite even if they are not yet ready for full membership because e.g., they have not been baptized.) · The church should move to eliminate activities that compromise Christianity. Official functions, including Youth, should relate to Spirit principles and at minimum not be counter productive. BASES The church building is God's special “House of prayer” (Isa56:7; Mt 21:13). We should not get as close to the world as possible but present God’s alternatives. Televising the Super Bowl e.g., at the “evening service” hour and especially with the immoral MTV half-time was/is a serious mistake. Even many non-Christians adults were disappointed that a church would show it. Secondly, most pro sports are so fraught with greed and grandious living, drugs and debasement, that they are not a net benefit to society, and less so for the church. They eat up monies, time, emotions, and allegiances that are best spent on God or our families. Thirdly, contact football is basicly a fighting vicious game using our bodies as battering rams to knock the opponent down so that he will not get up again. Hardly what our Apostle Paul meant in his sports analogies. Some sports are very beneficial and can be church related. Video games in churches should have some Christian slant or at least be neutral and not violent, unlike some e.g., GRAN __ 3 with racing "viciously fast; blinding speeds"; Hot Pursuit with cops; and IHL with violence without redeeming value. * The church should try to have a suitable room for persons e.g.,widow(ers) who have lost a family member(s) the preceding week to be comforted in a suitable room during the following Sunday morning (and post the policy and conditions for such to be available). BASES: The church is their spiritual family and many would love to stop by and comfort such a one This would be a more convenient time and place allowing many more to visit. It seems more a spiritual setting, appropriate, warm, familiar, and less costly than a funeral home. Now that more are using Cremation and a more convenient time later for a Memorial service when all of the generations can gather, it is even more important that the church family is conveniently available for them promptly. An announcement could be made at the start of the service, that the family will be in Room xxx to greet comforters after the morning service. Those who lost family could take in part or all of the worship service as they feel comfortable, and then return to the room. Posting the potential and conditions online or otherwise would help persons to realize the imminent and facilitate the arrangements (e.g., whether the casket or flowers could be brought in in addition to pictures, etc.). · Each church bulletin should contain the phrase early and at least once, “the Lord willing [or] D.v.” [Deo volente/God willing] after calendar event(s). Preferably, all of the announcements should be spiritually related to the church. (Even fun activities should be laced with a prayer time and Christian overtones and principles.) BASES: “You are a mist…then vanishes. …You ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.’ As it is you boast and brag…evil” (James 4:14-16). When we say we ARE going to do something, and interference comes, we have lied. When we say “the Lord willing,” we bring Jesus into our minds and plans of all present. The bulletin is for Christ’s business. “Whatever…do it all for the glory of God” (1Cor10:31). When we announce that a church Group ABC is going to a pro football game, we are promoting something that borders on idolatry,… counter to His Kingdom interests, and we link this with His Name/church as if to have Him bless it. Peripheral items should be in an End or Addendum Section or on a separate sheet of a church bulletin.. · Church members should be thoroughly taught quarterly to purpose to avoid gossip, and listening to it as well as speaking, until most parishioners are practicing awareness of the dangers. BASES One prominent pastor in his sermon said "I noticed that... gossip does as much or more damage than all the other sins put together in the life...of the church." ..."I have noticed... inconsistency,...say one thing and we do something else." When we do not follow through on what we intend, that to is idle talk (just one of about 10 wrongs that can be gossip). Most Christians seem uninformed about the many principles relevant to gossip; or how to talk about their hurts or confess sins publicly for “healing” (James5:16) and progress without disparaging others by name, group, or entity. Many preachers have been guilty of public or pulpit gossip --thus poor modeling. E.g., pastors sometimes talk about what their son or daughter (often named) or wife has done wrong. Such is unfair as well as gossip. NOTE: two persons are necessary to make allegations (Dt 19:15; Mt 18:16; 2Co 13:1; also 1Tim 5:19). Allegations against a person or entity should meet a number of “needs tests”: Does it have 2 witnesses? , is it true?, is valuable to speak or write about?, is this the right time and media to use?, is it really necessary to identify a specific culprit?, who else (family, employees, …) will be unnecessarily hurt if I ID the culprit?, does it help sufficiently to offset the negative? is this the right person to tell this to? will these persons help solve? is this idle talk?, am I speaking in anger and thus more likely to misstate the facts?, …. Reader’s Digest had a “Rudeness” quotient quiz and make it clear that it is rude for one to listen to an allegation about another person [if our safety is not at stake]. Allegations have to be made and listened to carefully and separately—moving very slowly towards verification-- BEFORE the ID of the person or entity being discussed or charged. We can say to a potential needed witness -- What did YOU see? What did you hear? Did you hear similar to this? If we fail to understand the problems of gossip, we will not likely understand why the divorce rate and relation problems in the church are about the same percentage and intensity as that of the USA population. We should not say or repeat things unnecessarily that MAY impair the reputation of others. Speak "... no unwholesome talk ...only what is helpful ... Get rid of all ...anger...slander..." (Eph4: 29-32). Gossip is rampant and unchecked at many churches (though we all slip at moments and need to apologize and correct) . Those who engage in "... malignity, gossip, backbiters,...proud, boasters, ...implacable,...are worthy of death, .. [even those who approve of them]" (Rms 1:29-32; but note :21-32). Gossip and flattery are linked in Prov 20:19. And flattery is "spreading a net for his feet" (Prov 29:5). Deprecation of other person or entity by name or if easily identifiable (parent, boss, spouse…) even though joking, and even if it is the groups usual chatter, should not happen even if the other person or entity gives permission (unless permission is documented) and such permission is mentioned before in the story. We should question: Is it mandatory that the deprecation of reputation be told? Even saying that --things are going great and in good shape at a given church (business/house), and that God is pleased with Her-- when such may not be true seems beyond "permissible positiveness.” We are to build up others in public meets, and not use names to show their weakness, or to make light of their shortcomings or foibles. Talking even somewhat-adverse about identifiable persons --especially relatives, who are most intimate and therefore vulnerable and whose relationships are crucial to keep families together—might seem to give fellow parishioners "license" to likewise share "secrets" or demean, and so reputations are injured and feelings hurt (deprecation), even though at the time the hurt ones might laugh. · Leaders (and members) of this Church should not use pseudonyms/euphemisms/slang for Sacred words. BASES Such slang dishonors God, is imprecise when used, it disrespects the hearers, and it restricts useful dialog. Using heck and darn treats lightly things eternal and extremely serious. It is toying with the sacred. Gee, Golly, Gosh, O my goodness (Whose goodness?), ... are euphemisms, pseudonyms, expletives, and slang for Jesus/God (see expanded Dictionaries such as Oxford English Dictionary/OED). Most people know this, but think it not important. God does. To understand the pervasiveness, synonyms, and degeneration of English, trace a word like “gosh” in the wikipedia.com Such pseudonyms violate the 3rd Commandment. "I will give thanks to Thy Name...because Thou hast magnified above all Thy Name, Thy Word" (Ps 138: 2) and MANY other verses. Such slang are vain often used in oaths like "By Gosh," and other Christians often silently question our sincerity for Christ when we use them. Gosh for God is far worse than a bad name for your spouse or mother, or nigger for negro (black friends agreed). Leaders especially should avoid sacred slang. Many cites/sites support their elimination and more careful expression: a couple here are: http://www.sermonnotebook.org/old%20testament/exodus_20_7.htm http://www.acesonline.org/Columnists/Jacoby/question_26.htm "But I tell you, all men will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken" (Mt 12:36; 2 Cor 5:10). We hear leaders almost weekly speak pseudonyms for God or other sacred slang and it also grieves us deeply. We believe that such are grave offenses to our Lord and His Church and usually a violation of the 3rd Commandment. · Leaders should also try to avoid using street slang such as –kids for children, guys for women too, gang for group,…. BASES The Church is the place where high standands should be set with properness and dignity. Kids in the Bible and in good English (see the OED) language = goats, kidding, not taken seriously --so it is not appropriate for biblical children; guys are male (cf. with gals) and the word is often used for unisex or superfluously, e.g. you guys; gang has a violent connotation. It surprises us that some feminists will tolerate being called a guy, but not a man even in the biblical/anthropological sense. · Any biblical evangelist/missionary to a foreign country should be given 5 minutes of Church Service time annually to reveal their work, providing s/he does no appeal for funds or present suggestions contrary to creeds and policies of that church. The introduction should include that this person “will be available up front (or in the foyer) to meet any after this service.” BASES: The inspiring stories they tell will enlighten the minds and hearts of many, including the young, about the Gospel to the whole world. That is the Great Commission. When such make known their work and needs, the Holy Spirit will convict many to give prayer, money, or other support to such persons. · The Evangelism Committee should instruct on church social and gospel interaction. BASES The church is our most fertile mission field. Often persons are left alone in the foyer, passageways, …. No one should be left alone bewildered. Even if a few are already in a conversation, one can invite or wave in others, saying “We are discussing [how Jesus helped]….,” and then at a appropriate interlude say “ I am Joe, this is Jane, ….” New attendees should almost always be warmly invited to eat after a service. Hosts should know how to kindly lead a person/family to Christ. “Peace to you” is the biblical example (John 20, twice) and standard for Christians—“when you come to the house, say “Peace to your house” .… (1Sam25:6; Lu 10:5) But when others ask us –How ya doin?, we might want to reply—By the grace of Jesus, thanks. They asked the question; you are replying in a most truthful—and helpful way. This next one is questionable so go as the Lord leads. When you see or overhear something that could be considered sin, gossip, lasciviousness, abundant alcohol, smoking, a tattoo, car racing, etc., you could interject light-heartedly (non judgmental) that “Jesus can forgive that.” It is often stop more gossip. And most know that such are sin if they really think about it, and some do in their solemn time; your comment gives them reassurance that they can fellowship again with God if they repent. · Pastors (and sometimes leaders) should explain the benefits, factors, and precautions of “Greet one another with a holy kiss /HK” (Rom 16:16; 1Cor16:20; 2Cor13:12;1Thes5:26). BASES: God through Paul asks for the practice so honoring it is pleasing to Him. Jesus expected one of Simon the Pharisee; “You did not give me a kiss, but this woman… has not stopped kissing My feet” (Luke 7:45). The HK is to promote closeness of fellowship. And acceptance for those who may need that touch of human kindness, and it stretches us to mingle even with those who are poor, disheveled, and even odorous (see end of Mt 25). Many would do it on a mission trip but not in their own church! We can’t kiss everyone we see in church; that would usually take too long (though the Greek Orthodox have that as part of a service once a year), but born-again Christians need to come filled with the Spirit—without, lust, greed and sin, and open to give and receive a HK from anyone who “needs” one, even homosexuals. The HK/agio phileemati on the CHEEK AND should be accompanied with Spiritual words spoken so that even persons nearby can hear, e.g., “Peace to you [or] Blessings, [or] God bless you, …” which helps all persons near to have the right idea (and instruction) about the HK. It also alerts those around to observe (and counsel if problems). And we need to follow “do not lay hands suddenly on any man” (1Tim5:23). The other person might not be a Christian, or is back-slidden, or is hurting, or is uninformed, or new to the practice, or is fearful, or in a bad mood, etc. If we wish to give a kiss, normally we open our arms to others, and then observe if the other person indicates in some way that they are open or not to the HK. The kiss is for the cheek, quick, and not a tight embrace (exceptions to spouses and ole friends). A Church HK is not on the lips—for that is wishing a matching offer rather than a gift, is intimacy, and is openness to generational germs such as herpes and perhaps HIV? (Disregard the model of the generally fine TV series 7th Heaven. If another holds too long or around the waist, one can say—May you serve the LORD. If a seeming impropriety persists, one can intonate--May YOU SERVE the LORD. Or variations. Can we understand how cold the Muslims think we are when we do not practice what is normal for them (and in the Christian Bible). If a man would not kiss men, he should question whether he is moving with the Spirit enough to have HKs with women. Millard Fuller, a friend of Pres. Carter, was dismissed in early 2005 from heading Habitat for Humanity for apparent sexual improprieties with women. The specific actions were apparently not published. Our Yahoo Search revealed that “… In the March 26, 1990, letter, [President J.]Carter said he himself was given to physical displays of affection and appreciation, such as kisses on the cheek and hugs, to women he knew professionally and socially that were sometimes not welcomed. He wrote that he shook hands with several men and hugged and kissed several women at the dedication of the John F. Kennedy Library in 1979 and that the late president's widow had "visibly flinched" at his actions. "Without minimizing in any way the significance of what has happened at Habitat, let me say quite frankly that I have had some similar kinds of relationships with some of my own female employees and associates. If one ever complained officially, there could be an avalanche of similar charges," Carter wrote in the letter, which Millard Fuller provided to The Washington Post.” · The Church shall have in-depth programs for biblical sex education for all appropriate ages and counseling for those with sex issues. BASES . Use and misuse of sex or gender plagues the church, usually without it knowing. The Church can best inform how to biblically control our thoughts and actions surrounding this natural God-given gift to all His people. The Church should engage Elders knowledgeable in the many Bible passages about sexuality and thoughts, who are specially trained, and sensitive to the sex issues. There is almost total confusion on the issues; yet sex goes to the core of who we are and how we act, think, feel, and learn. We all have deep thoughts and interest about sex: e.g., we ask about a new baby—is it a boy or girl? And usually before asking --Is it and mom doing well? --which really is the major question. Most girls start cosmetics by early teens and Christian women spend $billions a year on extraordinary hair dos, lipstick, mascara, jewelry, fashion clothing, etc. in addition to millions of hours primping to look attractive (and sexy). Contrast that with Christian beauty, 1Tim2:9; 1Pet3:3! Men expend minuscule in comparison to women, even though they too wear (worthless?) ties, etc. to please the ladies. And probably more than half of the motivation to lose weight is to be more attractive to the opposite sex --which in most cases is fine. Yet few understand the potential sex problems the face women especially. Anorexia, etc. Most women do not want to be hit on, so some do not want to trim out! Most persons do not have a Christian plan of resisting propositions; one could say-- “Our wonderful God knows everything, you are not mine to possess [now], and God does not want us to be physically closer.” However, looking biblically attractive, like a peaceful smile, an upright stature, and modest coloring can be used by the Lord to entice others to value the image of God and seek the Christian life.. Most persons start self pleasure (we deem “masturbation” =Lat. hand+pollute as an inappropriate synonym) at adolescence and do so throughout their healthy life according to various sex surveys (Kinsey, Masters & Johnson, Hite,…). While we do not agree with the methodology of most of these surveys, we can learn from them Most persons who self pleasure do so with the needed guilt-- for they violate the 10th Commandment and lust; others are not guilty of lust for they pleasure themselves as an infrequent normal activity (strenuous exertion, large meals, rubbing an itch) for release and and relief-- without contemplating another specific person. But even most of the later still live with (undue) shame because of perfunctory biblical interpretation, ethics and mores. Those are confused, and lose effectiveness in their life, in their Church, , and especially in their relation with Jesus. Dr. David Seamands discusses self pleasuring carefully in Practical Christianity, Tyndale, 1987, pp 524-527. If the enjoyment of our minds and bodies is put into proper biblical context, the incidents of inappropriate sexual contacts and relations would greatly diminish. Unfortunately, many of our teens and non-marrieds are ignorantly having promiscuous oral sex, and about 60% of older singles are having unprotected sex according to an AARP poll in the Feb 20 ’06 Newsweek magazine. Such sex outside of marriage is deadly—spiritually and often physically. · The Church should hold a Marriage Enhancement Banquet and Program at least once each year and invite its engaged persons also, and possibly those who are separated and divorced. BASES: Marriage reflects our relation and intimacy with Christ as our Bridegroom. It is intimate even though He is in Heaven, is based on love and service, and is enjoyable. Financial negotiations are paramount. Testimonies should abound. Culture, society, and sometimes the church confuse what IS marriage-- regarding roles, interaction, and even genders. Marriages need substantial mutual support and encouragement from within the Church. The banquet should be healthy food (see Food elsewhere on this site) and have a leader/speaker(s) who will help couples see more clearly the many wonderful aspects of marriage including pleasurable sex, how to communicate more effectively, how to heal and prevent the hurts most have (see also our Asking forgiveness), accepting with grace what they cannot change, and deepening their commitment to God and their spouse.. Seminar portions available on your computer screens (9/06) at www.MarriageToday.org lay a good foundation for discussion. Jimmy and Karen Evans, while still young, have held seminars for a number of years. · If it appears that our church is sponsoring a talent program or another event, Elders or their appointed Committee should preview any questionable portions of the event. If it is unclear and there is no timely opportunity to preview the event, then its Program, flyers and other promotion and descriptive material. should contain a disclaimer similar to-- Expressed actions and views of this event may not be those of this Church. If the church rents its auditorium to another organization where it is unclear if the church endorses all the program content, such disclaimer should also be stated. BASES Some performances may have some very inappropriate dancing, touching, and/or dialog. Indiscreet portions confuse attendees about Christianity, His Church, and limit our effectiveness in presenting His plan. Tacking on some evangelical call may even be counterproductive to many on balance (though a few might become saved, PtL)—for such would link corruption with the Gospel. The disclaimer may be in small type. · A Congregation Communications locked box should be in the foyer, with periodic announcements inviting its use -- which includes receiving anonymous suggestions or comments (tho signed is preferred), notes of appreciation, requests for help, depositing tithes and gifts (not otherwise given; Mk12:41), checks and slips for Reservations, etc. BASES Its use will help timeliness and save much confusion and effort. Without such a box and notice, a church will not likely find true congregant feelings and input for potential improvements. Nor will it operate as efficiently as it should. · All personal letters, emails, (and usually notes) to the church or its leaders will receive a prompt endearing acknowledgement reply, and possible additional review for further reply when helpful. BASES Most successful businesses find such courtesy ordinary and very beneficial; the Church has a higher standard and responsibility. Even non-members can be won by such courtesy; members may continue if treated properly. It saves raising embarrassing questions in public meetings SUMMARY SOLUTIONS: Many churches seem un- or mis-informed about many matters. We all need to improve. The "meat” of the Word (1 Cor 3:2) is very rare (pun intended); tradition and pleasantry (which is wonderful) seem to be the paramount practice. However, His Church/Believers need to live with persistent joy. Church leaders are allowing wrongs to prevail by its silence on key issues. We need to be listening to God and His Scriptures, and speak up biblically to men. And just abstaining from future errors is not enough, for we do not have strong reasons to believe that errors will then be averted. Public apology by the church with positive corrections and Guidelines or Policies are needed. The Scripture suggests success is not when the thief steals no more, but when he [restores] AND he gives to others in need (Eph 4:28). Application: e.g., persons who gossiped should make/insert public statements to restore the others' reputation. Draft Note: Material below this is not from the Bytworks.
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